It was a rainy day and I was yearning to pee. I used to go
to this yoga class where I never thought I would meet someone so E X O T I C. Agree
or not there was something super exotic about this guy I met… Err.. in the
bathroom. I peed first and he was next. Obviously, I couldn’t see him in his
eye while I walked out. As he shut the door I realized I had forgotten my phone
near the wash-basin (nothing disgusting about it. The wash basin was its
cleanest self). I knocked. He obliged.
“I am Sorry but I kept my phone in the bathroom. Can you
please pass it on to me?” A very wrong question to be asked to a guy who is
busy peeing I tell you.
“Maybe you can take it later.” He said with an accent. And
the heart races!
If I were who I am in my head I would have taken this
opportunity and noted down his number right away! But some imaginary ring in my
finger stopped me.
As so-not-expected the guy initiated a conversation the next
day. I obliged. I had to. He is too extraordinary to be ignored. So here I was…talking
to an International Desi. A desi becomes exotic the moment he steps on a
foreign soil. Somehow the looks, the gait, the accent, the gestures, the smile,
the laugh….every damn thing about a guy changes the moment he lands overseas. I
had to steer him clear of any dating possibility and his disappointment was
evident.
It was another rainy afternoon when he was talking to our
yoga teacher about marriage. Apparently, the oh-it’s-so-difficult-to-keep-my-hands-off-you
desi guy was in his early thirties and still in search of ‘true love’ and a
‘good girl’. He seemed to just walk out of some bollywood movie to me. Maybe he
should stop watching those. The truth of life is that it is wayyy to difficult
to find ‘true love’ and open your eyes dude!! Good girls are everywhere!
I interrupted “And why won’t you find a good girl?” (I
wanted to propose my candidature but damn you Imaginary ring!)
“Umm.. I don’t know! Girls today are too ambitious and
independent.” he said. I was shocked to hear that from a global desi who must’ve
seen volumes of go-getting women abroad. If he thought that I wonder what desi
men think!
“So? You can marry an independent girl. Can’t you?” I retaliated.
And then it dawned upon me…the truth of unmarried men! The
ambition, the independence, the goals, the career…everything is turning the
girls of this age un-marry-able.
I went through all the texts on our all-career-girls
whatsapp group (the closest gang I have). We just spoke about the freedom,
independence, career, goals, life….that’s it! No guy talks… EVER! Yes, we are
independent, career-oriented, ambitious, free-bird. We are shrewd, smart, wise,
beautiful. We are women! I don’t see a problem with that!
Men complain women won’t leave their careers to build up a
family. Well, we do adjust but surely cannot leave our careers. Well, here is a
question…WILL YOU? It is not wrong to be ambitious about ones career, right? If
men can be ambitious so can women be! I feel it is completely wrong on a man’s
part to expect his partner to take care of the household. Equal opportunities.
Equal duties. Equal responsibilities. (I do not say Women are Equal to Men. We
are definitely superior.)
Anyway, all of a sudden I found the women categorized into 2
groups – The marriage material and the unmarriageable ones. Unfortunately, all
the women running behind their careers fall in the second category and hence
they are sort of…unreachable (I think it is unattainable really).
I have no clue why men would have a problem marrying
ambitious women. Whether it goes against their male ego or if they feel
threatened and intimidated by the presence of the independent ladies. All I
want to say is…this is going to be the rule now - Equality of responsibilities. Anyway the ‘marriage material’ ladies
already have their face book walls full of the Wedding pictures but the
un-marry-able ones are ruling the world! ;)
